Saturday 30 June 2012

WILD35TAS #12

An early bird catches the worm, but sweet dreams are immediate and taste better than worms. Need a different motivation.

Friday 29 June 2012

WILD35TAS #11

There is nothing stronger than human willpower. And sometimes nothing weaker.

Monday 25 June 2012

WILD35TAS #10

If you don't see your own magnificence, you won't be able to accept praise for your hard work, you will never feel good enough. Love thy neighbour like YOU LOVE YOURSELF.

Friday 22 June 2012

WILD35TAS #8

I've seen my share of different churches, denominations, religions, beliefs, and very recently I've crystallised a thought that I'd rather be considered Christ-like than a Christian, thank you very much.

Thursday 21 June 2012

WILD35TAS #7

There are people who seem to be continuously angry and looking for a conflict. Walk away. Their battle is not with you, but with themselves.

Sunday 17 June 2012

WILD35TAS #6

People can be irritating, dumb, lazy, egoistic, mean and anything in between. Try to love them anyway, because the only other option is hate and hate hurts mostly the one who carries it in the heart. Not worth it.

Thursday 14 June 2012

WILD35TAS #5

It's ok to feel afraid, lost, tired, helpless like a child sometimes. That's when we are truly us, no masks, no roles. Our capacities are limited, and only when we admit it and give up the struggle to move everything in our life with our own muscle the supernatural help can finally arrive. And boy what a relief that help is! I've experienced it and nothing will shake my belief in angels all around us.

WILD35TAS #4

People who put effort into impressing you are usually already impressed by you. And that's a soothing thought.

WILD35TAS #3

Everyone wants to be accepted and appreciated for what they are; we can no more change our personality than a river can change into a tree. Duh? And yet we often forget that...

WILD35TAS #2

It's a sign of mediocrity when you demonstrate gratitude with moderation, as Roberto Benigni once said. I couldn't agree more. By being grateful you can't lose anything, you can only gain: love of other people, good mood, peace of mind. I feel like having a debt with a person whom I didn't thank enough.

Wednesday 13 June 2012

WILD35TAS #1

If you're nice to people most of the time they'll be nice to you. As adults we still mimic eachother like young children, but often forget about that.

Introducing WILD35TAS

I'll be 35 in August. In ancient times it was age of grannies already. In modern times it's often age of not-married-yet and childless-yet. Well, not me, I have the full set: a husband, a daughter and a son. But hey, I'm 15 years younger than Demi Moore and you just take a look at that woman - does she have an age at all? So, I'm fine, thank you very much for asking. No age related panic (yet).
I thought 35 is a nice moment to start gathering the wisdom that I've collected during my 35 travels around the sun on this weird planet called Earth. Thus, if you be so kind and bear with me, I'll start something called "What I've learned during 35 travels around the Sun" or WILD35TAS if you prefer - string of short blogs containing short little grains of  daily wisdom I feel I've gained through the years. Are you with me?

Friday 1 June 2012

Insecurities, insecurities, insecurities

It dawned on me that I am insecure. It was a big surprise, because I've always thought of myself as sturdy, eloquent, amusing, full of energy and ideas. That is until I started noticing the break-downs in this system. Now I'm not sure what I am anymore. I'm going through a second adolescence. What I'm hoping for is that just as after the first, physical, adolescence I will come out stronger, more balanced, with clearer views on what I really am and can.
I believe that success in any field of life is mostly determined by fighting your own insecurities. I know endless examples of remarkable people, full of brilliant ideas, who just don't believe in themselves. They sit around and do nothing with their inner treasures. They don't believe anyone wants to see what they have to give, convinced that nobody really cares if they do something with it or not. If they dare to show their works to public, oftentimes the reaction is not inspiring to continue sharing the ideas. Mostly it's apathy, now and again it's something worse. Partially it's the fault of the modern competitive society that often ridicules any signs of talent out of their own (alas!) insecurities.
Recently I found out a shocking fact - about 80% of all people say their secret ambition is to be a writer, just like me. Per se it's not shocking, writing is one of the most accessible and entertaining forms of self expression. But if you just think how few of these people pursue their goal and how very few of those who do pursue their dream actually succeed at it... Yeah, that's shocking alright. And it gives me another ground for insecurity. Am I any different from all aspiring writers who never actually published any of their works? Do I have that mysterious ingredient in me, that will help me break through where others have stopped dead? What does it take to push aside insecurities and succeed? A close friend of mine suggested making a list of my strengths. So maybe I'll do that. How do you fight your insecurities?